Why did I do that?
This is some of the basics in good energy hygiene; good energy boundaries.
If you can imagine for a moment, that we, as whole beings, (and by that I mean spirits who have a body), are made of, let’s say, 10 cups of our own energy.
When we have 10 full cups in us, we feel complete, strong, and whole. We are on track with our goals, and just feel clear, and here, and in present time.
Imagine holding, and noticing a beautiful, fragrant, red rose, and being with it for a moment.
Imagine being present with someone else, someone you love, who is quite present as well.
Now, imagine creating something from that place, perhaps doing something you love, like playing a musical instrument, or singing, or dancing, or painting. You want to be there, to experience every drop.
You feel alive, all of it, the happy, the sad, the present, acknowledging and releasing, both the joy and the pain.
That is the best, fully living life! You can create miracles from this space.
I also think that a part of being human, is forgetting, and leaving parts of ourselves, parts of us, in different places. We do that both consciously, and unconsciously.
We leave our energy in the past, and in the future. We leave it in relationships, in our problems (and in other peoples problems), in what we resist, in our list of things to do, and, in our commute home. We leave bits of our energy in our jewelry, our favorite chair, and in the things we are creating.
No wonder we find ourselves spacey, or tired easily!
We may leave ourselves in the ones we love, our partners, kids, friends, co-workers, or clients, and that may be an ingrained habit, as if we can help them by being in their space. Really, we can’t, as they can’t use our energy as fuel, and it won’t solve their problems, or get them to like us more.
You may find yourself getting enmeshed in the emotions of others. Giving ourselves to others may be an ingrained habit, or belief, that that’s how we give to others. Many believe that not doing it means we are selfish. It’s far from the truth, though. When we give away our energy habitually, we end up exhausted, drained, disconnected from our bodies, and our own lives. We’ll feel more energized when we gather our own energy, back into our bodies, and we can support others from that place, of wholeness and integrity.
Better to have good energy boundaries.
Some people like that burst of another’s energy, but most cannot use it, and it feels suffocating, and they end up resenting you, and you, them.
A tablespoon here, a half-cup there, and soon your 10 cups of your own vital life force, is waning.
You’ll end up grouchy, spaced out, and ungrounded, and other opportunistic energies may start to flutter their way into your almost emptied shell.
I use a tool to pull my energy back into myself, without judging where it was, and replenishing myself with it. I learned it many years ago, from the Berkeley Psychic Institute, and it is an energetic staple for me. I use it quite a few times a day. It feels great, and I get to learn a lot about myself, and my habits, my energy leaks, and about people who take my energy.
It’s really not about them, so no judging them. It’s about your own energy hygiene.
In a way, energetically, it will teach you a lot!
You can also use your breath to imagine your energy coming back into you.
Intent, and imagination are very powerful here.
While being in your body, with your awareness right behind your eyes, imagine that you are calling back your energy from the last day or so. Command it back, but not in any way in effort about it. Just call it back, and allow it to start filling back up, nice and slow, and steady, like a golden liquid. That liquid is you. It comes back from all the places you have left it.
You could know where it is coming back from, or maybe not, perhaps just allow it back, with no judgement on anyones part, and allow it to fill to overflowing.
Give that ball of your own energy a hello, and with your intention, drop it down into the top of your head, and let it all slide down, all through your space, your body, your bones, and muscles, everything.
Just allow it to fill up and expand, into all your cells, and the space in-between your cells. You can also let some of it go down your grounding cord as well.
Its your energy. It has intelligence. Let it go where it needs to go…perhaps a chakra, an injury, or a place you feel particularly depleted.
There are so many ways to do this, but I find this method to be the best. Especially after a long meditation where I am releasing foreign energy from my body, my chakra, and my energetic field.
Maybe just fill up the place that I reside, right behind my eyes.
Being whole, with your awareness in the center of your head, or your heart, with good boundaries, is such an incredibly powerful place to be, and from that place, you can give to others in a clean way, in a sacred way. From being whole, and feeling complete.
Not depleted, or entangled.
I also teach people to bring their energy back into their own space by using their breath.
Slow breath in, and gather your energy back.
Slow breath out, and bring it down into the body, filling you up completely.
I might do this 4 or 5 times.
For beginners, or, after a powerful session, you can always bend over, head to knees, and hands on the floor, and release any extra, down into the earth.
For some people, that might be too much at one time.
I also use this amazing tool throughout the day, not just after a long clean out meditation, or energy work session.
After a client, after a group call (I ask everyone to pull their energy out of the bubble of sacred space we co-created, and out of each other, and we complete the space, end it, destroy the bubble, and fill ourselves up with fresh, new energy. We leave the sometimes hour and a half session autonomous, refreshed, energized.
I use it after a long day, where everyone climbed into my space, including my cat, and people on Facebook.
I pull my energy out of the past, so I can truly be in present time. This works for contracts, old agreements, past trauma, or, simply, that old, comfortable overstuffed chair that I sat in for years. Or, a place I used to live.
Some people are in the future. They have so much going on, that they are already energetically at the vacation they will be arriving at in a few days.
so, who is driving the car now?
Other places you can leave your energy:
Your list of things to do.
Your bank account.
Your constant commute to work.
Your significant other. (They will thank you for the new roomy space they get to have!)
The scary thing that you need to do, that you are resisting. (Resisting zaps your energy. Neutrality does not)
Politics.
Your clients.
Your amazing artwork/song/sculpture/book you are writing.
Bringing your energy back to you, in present time, bright and glowing! You can just delight in this newfound feeling of calm strength, clarity, and groundedness . Or, you may want to use it to create more wonderful things, and discover, play, and heal yourself!
Breathe, and be fully back in your body, happily healing, aware, and alive. You can most certainly bend over, and dump out any excess, if you are not used to this much energy at first. Remember to put up some nice, light protections around the edge of your aura, and perhaps create a brand new grounding cord for yourself.
Enjoy your new space, and your day! If you liked this new tool for your spirit toolbox, please give it a 'like" on Facebook, below, or share it, for a friend.
Gentle blessings,