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Influencing vs Adapting

1/31/2019

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I love the place where the shamanism I am practicing, and the psychic skills I use, intersect. And where they do, they do so in a most elelegant dance. One of my teachers, Sandra Ingerman, says that shamans are gardeners of energy.
It makes perfect sense as a gardener in real time, with patience, and a knowingness, and being one part in the web of life, you have an influence in the world.
With your psychic skills, you do that too, as you work with the energies in and around you; the definition of the word "psyche" means of the soul.
We learn to "set" the energy of a room, or, of an evening, a task, or a creation. We learn both to adapt neutrally, and also, to influence, also, neutrally.
The ability to choose, is energetic freedom. Here's an example.

It's wonderful and refreshing, when you are in a room with people, and it has become a bit boring, or stuffy, or tense, and then someone walks in, whistling, or laughing, or dancing; and fills the room with levity for a moment, and then, everyone looks up.
Perhaps they all look up from their phones, for example, where they were just aimlessly killing time, or avoiding being in the room. The person walking in didn't notice the stale, or boring funk in the room, or, just didn't care. Perhaps they were inspired, or just heard good news, or, like a child, just be-ing, a natural, energetic float level of joy.
So here is this room of people, and the energy has found itself set at bland, or bored, and then there is a shift, or change. You have a choice now, to change, to adapt, or to stay the same. It is as if an invisible invitation is sent to you, to lighten up, if you want. 
So, in this room of, let's say 6 people, one or two decide to stay the same, and go back to their phone apps, or avoid eye contact. Some, let's say one or two, decide to laugh, with the other, or to lighten up. there is now, a visible shift of energy. Something's different, and for some reason, the act of choosing how you set your space, seems a bit more pliable..
Because we are humans, because we are a social species, we are used to adapting. There is a flow.
There will also be the one, or two, who wish to stay the same. Perhaps they set the energy of the room at serious, or distant. They will either ignore the change, or resist the new change, and be "in resistance", (which is it's own energy signature. It's not very fun, and uses up a lot of your life force. It makes your space rigid, to keep that stance up, and the energy doesn't flow so well). 

One of the basic tools in a good psychic skills course, is neutrality; being neutral to the energies in you, and around you. 

We get charged up energetically to things all day long. Some things are perfectly valid, and keep you alive, sane, and healthy.
And some things just control you, if you over-feel things, or, if the outside worlds doings resonate with some emotionally charged picture in your space, from the past. Or, a very lodged, stuck belief, either yours, or someone elses, keeping you from being neutral, and just being an energy gardener.
Working the energy of the charged pictures can mean imagining putting them in a mental image picture of a rose, and then, simply destroying that rose; it will undo a few layers of stuck, past emotions, like layers of an onion, or, like many layers of paint on a piece of furniture, or a wall. Blow it up, again, and again. Or, make up a different version...melt them down, etc. I do love to explode them though! After a while, I can really feel the difference, as I become more neutral, and I have more room for me. 
Working those charged up pictures that live in your space, working the energy of them, releasing all those layers of stuff, whether yours, or another, is a lifelong, and very worthwhile task, and will change you, enlighten you, and give you incredible freedom.
Freedom to choose how you wish to vibrate. 
The freedom of choice.
The energy of neutrality, is a gift you give yourself.

It's not that you don't ever feel something strongly, or, that you don't allow yourself to feel the heights, and the lows of human joy, longing, pain, anger, grief, inspiration, etc. It is the freedom to choose.

And that brings us to our crowns, on the top of our head. We use this center to create from, in who we wish to be. Our ownership of our space.
The difference between having boredom, and being boredom.
So let's look at this room of people again, and let's be gardeners of energy.
If you were in the room of flat, boring, energy, (let's imagine it as a dark grey), and you wanted to change it. Did you just want to change it for your self? Perhaps it is ok to let the distant people stay distant. You could, acknowledge what is, and just let it be for a moment. Be neutral to it. 
And then, using your crown chakra, become something different. Perhaps, to be joyous, or enthused, and perhaps a bit social. It's a bit like putting on a different hat. Let's use a color for our example: how about a tangerine orange color, with a hello in it?
So, just like the person who walked into the room who was happy, and social, you can change your vibration, just as you sit there, with the others.
I might create a large orange bubble in the room, filled with a simple energetic hello to the others as spirit, and psychically invite anyone else in the room to join me, if they wish.
If they wish, not forcing, or expecting. Being neutral to what is, and yet, influencing the room, with the utter simplicity of how you are running your energy. Of how you are setting your energy, for yourself. 
Of how you are setting the energy of the room.
​Are you grounded? Have you grounded the room separately? Giving the room a connection to the planet, set on release, of extra energy?
So, there you are, radiating orange, in a room set at dark grey. You have offered them a Hello! I see you! Want to join?*

* I am reminded of Caroline Casey, in her show, "Visionary Activism", where she discusses the hierarchy of wolves, in nature. The natural leader of a pack, even as a puppy, shows a tendency to play, and not to fight, or be aggressive. It is inclusive. That, "Woof Woof, wanna play?" energetic signature works in humans as well. Not just for play. You could do the same with the vibration of "This here is deemed sacred space, this is a ceremony", or, "This is set now as a calm vibration, very mental, how nice for studying". There is also, "This is set as a sexual, and playful space", or "This is safe space, we can be vulnerable here".

Nature shows this to us constantly, if we were to quiet ourselves enough to listen. It invites us to set space to match its majesty, it's elemental playfulness, or it's stoic reverence.
I was hiking once, and ran quickly down a rather steep hill, because I heard running water, hidden by the trees. When I arrived, loudly pushing branches aside, I was greeted by a cow, that gave me a look. I glanced around, to see that there were others there, and the feeling was somber. There was also a dead cow there, and the others were nearby. As much as I wanted to play in the newfound stream, nature was telling me that the space was set at quiet, at reverence, and perhaps I should take my happy go lucky somewhere else. They had set space differently, and I respected that, and left.

We are not apart from nature; we are nature.
So, back to the room, set at dark grey, and also, now, at orange, with a hello. 
Just continue to be, and own your space at orange, while allowing the grey energy to be there as well. Some people will happily match this new vibration, a few will stay at grey. Some one may resist the change, and that's ok too.
That energy, that place, of being neutral to another who is resisting you, or your new energy, or you changing, is so important. This is your freedom, and a step to becoming who you are truly meant to be. 
It may be uncomfortable, for a moment, but just breathe through it, and be neutral. Of course, at some point, they can change, and accept the new energy, or the change, but you are to be unapologetic in your emerging.
Unapologetic, neutral, setting the energy of your new space, a space of your choosing.
Nature does this all the time.
So, have fun in the room being orange, for a while, and meet some new people. You can set space for an hour, or a day, or a class, or ceremony, or only in the library.
You can change it whenever you wish. Setting space is a tool, in your toolbox.
This is also what happens when you do a house healing, for your own house, or for another.
Notice each room, and how the energy is set.
There may be other energies present, setting space, including the spirit of the land, or the building, or the occupants from years back. Notice, say hello, perhaps understand, and then re-set it, in present time.
Setting space comes in all forms. It can be a long, beautiful ceremony, with sage, and essential oils and the vibration of bells, or singing, or, just you, silently, with, or without your guides, and helpers.
It may be that you discover, that you have inadvertently set the energy of your commute to work at mentally complaining, angry thoughts, and unconsciousness, and not too much choice.
Again, notice, be neutral, say hello, and become. Influence, instead of adapt, by simply being present. Then you can re-set the energy, as you wish, without sage, or any bells and whistles. Maybe laughing at yourself can lighten the load, and help you get out of resistance, or, the old pattern you had it set at.
Even simpler, forget the steps, and transfigure, just be. Be love, be light, be golden. Others, the environment, even the nature around you will be in the path of change, of re-set, at more light.
Had I known that shamanic tool, (another tool taught to me by Sandra Ingerman) when I was at the ravine, I would've just sat on the ground, and become light, and offered it to the earth there, and the cows in mourning.
Influence, adapt, influence, adapt. Influence, adapt,
in neutrality, and in choice.
​Just like nature.
I wish you a beautiful day, set at the energy of your choosing, in a room filled with the energy of something very healing, in affinity with that precious, and beautiful body of yours,
gentle blessings, 
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                                                copyright HelenaMazzariello/Spiritinjoy 2019

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Your Energetic Dashboard and Psychic Health

1/7/2019

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This blog is about our boundaries, and sovereignty as intuitives, as kind people, as empaths, and also as professionals, for those in the healing and psychic professions. Even if you aren’t, these are tools you can use now to change your life, to give you sanity, space, freedom, and psychic health.

Good psychic health demands a level of self-honesty, and it requires that you look at how you are showing up in your world. Your personal physical boundaries and limits mirror your psychic ones. And your professional ones. What is in your energetic field, and why? Are you creating your reality from your own set of limits? Nothing outside of you will transmute the patterns inside of you. Change is an inside job, and it is a process.


For a moment, close your eyes, and imagine that you have a control panel in front of you, like a dashboard of a car. It can have a gauge for each chakra, it can have an energy level (like a gas tank) it can have a level for your havingness (how much you think you deserve), or for your protections, or how much you are giving your energy away to others (by healing them, or resisting them, or perhaps they are cording you). Imagine that you can have access to this dashboard, whenever you need. You can just look at it when you need, and make any necessary adjustments. This is an incredible spirit tool for your toolbox, and will give you the information to keep you healthy. It will also train you, as to your weak points, and bad habits, like taking on another’s pain.
It doesn’t help either of you to do that.


A person who is a psychic, or healer that takes on the other person’s pain and feels the need to “fix” them is known as a “sick psychic”. These people don’t have good boundaries, and it is best to stay at a distance. If you are not one, but feel too much, or “see” too much, this is for you.
So many of my friends, clients, colleagues are highly intuitive, and deeply care for others, for the planet. They are (we are) very sensitive. Highly sensitive. We want to help others, fix others, especially if we are healers, or parents, caregivers, etc. We feel the pain of others, even the pain of an animal, entire family, group or community.  Sometimes, if you add to that mix being of an empath, intuitive, or clairsentient, it can make you codependent, it can take you out of your body, make you feel so much, that it’s just too much. It can make you want to fix the other, to stop the pain.

It could be that you were a very sensitive child, and felt all the emotions around you, in your family.
For many people, the use of your “Clairs”*, especially your feeling, or clairsentience, could have been the means your little body used to stay safe, to stay alive. Unfortunately, in many dysfunctional, or abusive, families, perhaps with parents who were alcohol or drug dependent, or mentally unstable, it was an extremely important tool to judge what was really happening, so you could make your choice in how to act, what to say, how to be.
Perhaps, having those boundaries (psychic feelers on full blast, being responsible for another’s emotional issues to make yourself safe was the best you could do at the time, with those tools. You needed to stay alive, you needed to be loved, and you had no other choice.

And, in so many ways, as humans, this is a healthy trait; caring for loved ones, staying safe, feeling your friend’s pain can make you a better friend, as to have more compassion, or be there for them.


Some aspect of it is creating healthy boundaries for yourself, both your energetic space, and also what you see and feel.
It could be not taking responsibility for other’s problems, or the things you sense.
I see this as a technical problem, like a plumbing problem, and I teach people how to turn down their lower chakra, when being clairvoyant, in my psychic skills classes.

A powerful thing to do, as you are just waking up, is to set the energy dials of your day.
Just like the volume dial on a radio. Slowly. It can be that simple.
Another way, can be to envision your chakra like the aperture of a camera, how it opens and closes. You can, with intention, slowly open, or close your chakra.
Be aware, that you have an internal dashboard, a control panel, where you can do this.


For many, it is to close down the body chakra, to disengage from another person’s ego game, or power struggle. To feel less, or to not be in survival mode, (that would be the first chakra). You may see your energy field and kick someone out, or put up better boundaries. You have you Angels and guides to help you calibrate your space, remember. Use your spirit tools.
For those who are psychic, or intuitive (I think we all are) it could be a nightmare if you had a constant stream of information coming in.
It could make you crazy, if you did not know about the control panel. And, seeing something, and being responsible for it, are two different things.


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It makes me laugh when I think about an old TV show called the Ghost Whisperer, with Jennifer Love Hewitt. Her character was a clairsentient, an empath, and a psychic, a seer, whose life’s path was to help beings cross over to the light, who were stuck after they died.
It’s funny to me, because that is one of my paths as well, and yet, I have much better boundaries. I may see some things, but I also have the ability to turn it down, or turn it off, if need be. 
I don’t think I have to help every suffering soul, or angry stuck being.
I certainty don’t stop everything, to help them, (driving fast in my SUV to relentlessly warn the parents, who never asked for my help, of a deceased child who needs assistance crossing over). In each episode of the show, she completes the task,  of helping the being to the light, and handling everything, and usually, her business, her friends, and her life, suffer the consequences. She makes a great TV show, but she is known as a sick psychic, in that she has absolutely no emotional, or spiritual boundaries, and doesn’t know she has a control panel, and her sovereignty, to say no, to turn down her third eye, or to help others without being responsible for the world of the dead.


The ability to say no to healing others (healing meaning taking their stuff in, over-feeling other’s pain, being at the effect of other beings to the point where you are not being sovereign, where you are not in control, is having healthy boundaries.
Having those boundaries keeps you sane, and allows you to heal yourself. Actually, the process of using this dashboard tool can help both areas of your life. If you are co-dependent in your human relationships, you will tend to have lousy spirit boundaries too. As you heal one, you heal the other.
Having those boundaries allows you to heal yourself.
You heal yourself when you have healthy boundaries.
You are not the one responsible to fix other people’s problems, even if as a child, you did that, or in an unhealthy relationship, you did that.
Having and keeping Good boundaries is a healthy way to be in the world, and it is also a spiritual tool. Having healthy boundaries is a psychic tool. It allows you to choose how you wish to run the energy in your space, instead of being at the effect of others.
You can still have compassion, while saying no.
You can still love others, and not take on their stuff.
You can still be a good psychic, or healer, and turn it off at the end of the day, just the way you flip the “closed” sign on a store window.
 
Some of the psychics I know just see random crisis, events about to happen, or evil, when they are just living their lives, or, they may hear people’s thoughts. Some see crimes, before they are committed. I sometimes get a flash of an insight, or a picture. I acknowledge it, and then ask myself, or my guides, if that is my problem. If it is not, I move it out of my space, without putting my energy into it. Or, delegate it, to the supreme being, or the Angels, to help.
In no way am I responsible. I can actually turn down my Clairs, if the energy is too intense, if I am driving, or if it is just not my stuff, but a client in crisis, for example.



At the extreme, someone having a psychotic breakdown does that. They have no control over the dials in their energetic dashboard, and the switches are all on full blast.

You are not an extreme case, you just need to understand and use the tool of your control panel. Sometimes, grounding, and flushing out those Clairs* can release the foreign energy that could have climbed in.
If you are not managing that panel, someone else can be playing around with it.
Seriously.

It could be a client who wants you to feel sorry for her, and wants a longer reading. It could be a being without a body, which needs or wants your help (remember the Ghost Whisperer lady?)
Perhaps you are sensing something important, and you need to thank your clairs*, do what needs doing, and turn them down to what is comfortable for you at the time.
Your boundaries as a body, and in the physical world also translate into the spirit world, and those who are shamanic practitioners, psychics, or healers understand. Your healthy boundaries tolerate certain things, and experiences, both in the body, and on the astral plane.
Just as you have human boundaries, you have clear and healthy spirit boundaries. You always have your angels, your spirit helpers, and spirit guides to assist you, with protections, or as a gatekeeper (allowing only certain things into your field, certain energies, frequencies, etc. They also can safely help you with experiences to help you learn.




 * Clairs are your natural ability to make sense of this world, besides your physical eyes and ears. They are your clairsentience, feeling, your gut feeling, your clairaudience, hearing, your clairvoyance, clear seeing, and Clair cognizance, clear knowing. You also have Clair persuasion. (I know my cat has that, Lol!)


Thank you for being you, with your big loving heart. We are all growing, learning, as light keepers for this beautiful planet of ours. Please give this article a "like", or share it with someone who may appreciate this energy tool. Gentle blessings, all.

                                             HelenaMazzariello/Spiritinjoy copyright 2019
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