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Are you an out of control healer?

5/9/2013

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We’ve been trained to help and heal others, to be a good person, and because we truly care for others, friends, family, and the world. Sometimes we heal and solve problems for them; sometimes we just hold their baggage. Feeling too much can be a bad thing, and sometimes it may be a sign that you don’t feel safe in your environment, or that you need others to like you,
regardless of the situation. Maybe you need to feel wanted; maybe you came from a family of “out of control healers”, have a lot of guilt, or just feel so much, that watching people
in duress, stress, or pain, sends you into a tizzy.

One of the easiest ways of losing your psychic space, or
energetic health, is by taking in other people’s problems, emotions, or energies
to try to “fix” it. You tend to do this from your second chakra (below your
navel, in your lower belly), or your female creative energy, if you’re a woman.
All that foreign energy in your belly can cause you to change who you are, can
even cause pain and dis-ease, and can cord the other person energetically. It
gets pretty confusing; you can’t solve their stuff that way, and most times
people end up resenting you for it, even if they are the ones that put it there
in the first place!


Yes, people will gladly hand you their problems energetically! We
do it all the time! Who else is going to take an entire box of kittens from the
pound? Who else will listen to your relationship problems until 3 in the
morning? Maybe you can take all that pain and fear away!
There is nothing wrong with helping others, feeling, and caring, and problem solving, but it is good to know your own healthy boundaries.

So how do you know if you have taken on other people’s emotional problems,
and issues, consciously, inadvertently, or by default?


Loving yourself (that 4thchakra, in your heart area) also has to do with having good healthy
boundaries. That may be a good place to look first. You can take a look at any
cords, or agreements you may energetically have with the other person, and
either break them, change them, or bring them into present time. Sometimes
people can cord you energetically in your heart space, in a “if you love me,
then you will solve my problems, and heal me”…You may decide to support a
friend, but not take their problem in energetically, or establish healthy
boundaries in helping them. Remember, this is about loving yourself as
well.


A good thing to say here could be “I know you will find an answer to this. I have
faith in you. Let me know how this works out for you”.


When you meditate, clean your space, ground yourself, run energy,
and feel healthy, happy, and full of self love, you can put your hands on your
belly, and say hello to your own projects, emotions, and information there, and
also the energies of others. Say hello to both. Now allow yours to grow, and the
foreign energy to slide down your grounding cord or you can give it back to the
other person, with a smile. “Here you go; I can’t solve your problem…
but good luck with it!”

Some of us
are "sensitive sponges."
We pick up energy
pretty easily from family, friends, and even
strangers. It's important to check your energy daily
and clear all the emotional and mental
baggage that you may have picked up
from others. You'll know what
energies don't belong to you!

― James Van Praagh 



 I teach a beginning meditation class, and as a fun exercise, I have them think of
some irritating problem they have, or some emotionally painful one, and really
let it come up for them. Then, we blow it up in a big balloon, and tie a knot in
it. When we let it out, it feels good. We hold them in our hands, and feel the
energy of the problem. Wow. The next thing we do is to pass the balloon on to
the person on the right, and let them feel this energy. Although this is a fun
game, it is so powerful, because it shows our spirit, and our mind, what that is
like, to hold someone else’s stuff in our space! I usually have my students do
this after we have meditated, and feel really good, peaceful, and healed. It
makes it even more potent. We can use our abilities to discern different
qualities of this balloon filled problem, or just notice how it makes us feel.
Then we decidedly claim, in unison “THIS IS NOT MY PROBLEM!”, and pass it to the
right, to the next person, and we are passed yet another balloon filled with
stuff. We laugh as we heal ourselves, because (ha-ha), people won’t solve our
stuff either! We must take responsibility for it.



As our own balloon gets passed back to us, we get to destroy it, by popping it, and
the charge of energy released in the room is quite amazing! We pull our neutral
energy out of it, and have learned a powerful lesson, in a space of amusement.


As you start to let go of other people’s energy, and problems in your energetic
field, you will notice a lot more space is available for you. You will feel
great!
You may lose a few friends in the process, but the ones that stay will
respect your boundaries, and those relationships will be more empowering. You
may find you have more energy and more free time as well!


We are spirit, and we have a body. We are human. We make mistakes, we remember, make changes, and move on. And, as everything is made up of energy, changing that energy, lightening up the energy of “problem”, to something else, is our birthright.
It is a spirit tool. Use it, it works!


 Contact me a reading, and see if you are using your precious life force
being an out of control healer! Is there anyone draining you with their
problems? Learn to set healthy, loving boundaries for yourself, and solve your
own issues in amusement, and clarity! ~~~Helena Mazzariello


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    Helena Mazzariello is an artist, clairvoyant, healer, and teacher, in gratitude and joy to be playing the game of life with her friends.

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