It’s not what we do, but who we are. It’s how we show up.
How we show up in our friendships, in our family, our relationships, in our business, with our neighbors.
In our spiritual practice.
Being aware of the difference of being completely guarded, to be protected, to be overly protected.
And, yes we need to have our boundaries! That keeps everyone healthy, and helps relationships, and groups that we are in, to have trust.
But too many guards, can be like security guards, can be like our prison guards, and we can lose connection with other people, with nature, and ultimately, ourselves.
Even our own comfort zone, can be like a very comfortable prison, blocking out much needed growth, and experiences.
We nurture our own self worth and esteem, by doing things we are not sure we could do.
As I watch people lately, including myself, I see that the last few months have put people into their comfort zones. There is a lot of anxiety about the future, and a lot of pain, and change, and uncertainty.
So a comfort zone feels really good, feels safe and healing. But it keeps us stuck, and we start to see things from that perspective, which is not really the whole truth.
In an energetic concept, that may mean that we have good psychic protections, good boundaries, including the ability to say no.
We clean our spaces, and become clear, so we can be of service to others, as healers, to the planet, as children of the earth.
It’s wonderful, then, because we feel safe to venture out, to be vulnerable, real, even curious.
And that part of you is needed now.
It brings much value to your work.
It brings much value to the planet, and to your friends.
There are many earth changes now, too, which makes us feel uneasy, a little scared. Easy to revert back, like a turtle, in it’s shell.
The mainstream news is taking advantage of this fear, division, and un-ease, this dis-ease.
It’s good to take breaks from the energy of it, to help you to re-group, and get into balance. It can really help.
Obviously, also, is the wonderful growth, and much needed changes to our systems, our old paradigms that we were living with, or, putting up with, because we weren’t aware of the power of community to change, and to have a voice.
This is all so wonderful, and timely, so healing! We are all walking in new territory now.
And so perhaps the old comfort zone is a bit worn, a bit unraveled at the edges.
Your comfort zone is tired of you, always being there.
Perhaps it is time to examine it, and to create a new zone of comfort?
What would you change about yours?
Take a moment, and take a look.
What do you do that keeps you “safe”, either socially, energetically, in your career, your home, your art, your health, your politics, your methods of doing things. How much you give. Or take. Or ask for help.
Now, a comfort zone is there for a reason, a safe place where we can resort to when we need in times of chaos, or strife, anxiety, or pain, grief, or uncertainty.
Or change.
Change, which is a constant in life.
Change is actually the one thing that we can count on.
So I invite you to take a look at, the energetic “room” which is your comfort zone.
Do a meditation, or journey, where you create a room, see yourself in it, and have a good, slow, conscious look around.
Name 5 things that you do there, have there.
What makes you feel safe?
Who do you hang out with?
What do you wear, or eat, or watch?
Where do you go repeatedly?
What is your spirituality? Your “go to” gods, or meditation?
What do you spend your money on?
Why do you feel safe there?
Name 5 things that you do not do, when you are in your comfort zone.
What big steps?
What do you need to guard?
what are you afraid to lose, if you venture out?
Would there be repercussions?
I think for me it involves physical safety, and sometimes not being seen, or judged. I think I go unconscious, in my way of hoarding things for myself, as if there might be a time I need it, and not enjoying the present. That includes my time, my tools, my sense of adventure, money, even big projects. Travel. Sometimes, it is not telling my truth, or ending a friendship, that is not working anymore.
It is sometimes saving the good parts for last, the good stuff for later, as if my comfort zone thinks there is not enough to go around. Always a what if, keeping me from making big decisions, that my heart already knows the answer to. For me it involves not making decisions, although they could be really good, (but perhaps not. I want guarantees).
Stepping out of it, for me, means taking chances, speaking out for what I believe. Speaking up for myself. It means reaching out, and asking for help.
Doing the work is no problem for me, it’s the getting started. a commitment, a plan.
A decision.
Taking a chance.
It means caring, when I had put up a wall, as to not get hurt. Being afraid, and then doing it anyway.
Being vulnerable.
Being curious.
Many times showing up.
Just. Simply. Showing. Up.
Just like a young child feels safe to venture out and explore, because the safety of the arms of his parents are nearby, we can feel safe because we have our inner core of strength.
We also have the ability to be flexible, to be flexible in that vulnerability.
The world looks different when we allow ourselves to be softer.
As we are more conscious, and through our choices, more real, more present, we can feel safe enough to expand our comfort zone, or, to step out of it, and feel the cool breeze on our face.
Being curious.
It brings much value to your work, and your relationships, including your relationship with nature, and with change.
Remember, that there are parts of you who need the comfort zone, and parts of you who wish to explore.
Everyday,
take a moment,
sit at your deathbed
and see what your dying
self has to say
about your life.
When weighing important options, it is good to do this in meditation or journey. It is one change that is a constant, and not that far off.
So, what would you like to adjust in your comfort zone? Perhaps make it more of a network? Add trust? Be more conscious in there? Make a side door that you can sneak out of?
More positive, and loving self talk? It may help you take some big steps out and on your own.
Walk outside of it, and just notice.
You can always come back in.
Perhaps one day it will not be there.
That comfort zone.
But, you can recreate it.
A different version,
lighter,
breathable,
or, perhaps,
very tiny, like a pearl,
that you can carry easily,
in your heart.
And, besides,
it feels good to feel the breeze on you face, and skin, when you are out of it, and,
outside of it, is where the magic happens!
How we show up in our friendships, in our family, our relationships, in our business, with our neighbors.
In our spiritual practice.
Being aware of the difference of being completely guarded, to be protected, to be overly protected.
And, yes we need to have our boundaries! That keeps everyone healthy, and helps relationships, and groups that we are in, to have trust.
But too many guards, can be like security guards, can be like our prison guards, and we can lose connection with other people, with nature, and ultimately, ourselves.
Even our own comfort zone, can be like a very comfortable prison, blocking out much needed growth, and experiences.
We nurture our own self worth and esteem, by doing things we are not sure we could do.
As I watch people lately, including myself, I see that the last few months have put people into their comfort zones. There is a lot of anxiety about the future, and a lot of pain, and change, and uncertainty.
So a comfort zone feels really good, feels safe and healing. But it keeps us stuck, and we start to see things from that perspective, which is not really the whole truth.
In an energetic concept, that may mean that we have good psychic protections, good boundaries, including the ability to say no.
We clean our spaces, and become clear, so we can be of service to others, as healers, to the planet, as children of the earth.
It’s wonderful, then, because we feel safe to venture out, to be vulnerable, real, even curious.
And that part of you is needed now.
It brings much value to your work.
It brings much value to the planet, and to your friends.
There are many earth changes now, too, which makes us feel uneasy, a little scared. Easy to revert back, like a turtle, in it’s shell.
The mainstream news is taking advantage of this fear, division, and un-ease, this dis-ease.
It’s good to take breaks from the energy of it, to help you to re-group, and get into balance. It can really help.
Obviously, also, is the wonderful growth, and much needed changes to our systems, our old paradigms that we were living with, or, putting up with, because we weren’t aware of the power of community to change, and to have a voice.
This is all so wonderful, and timely, so healing! We are all walking in new territory now.
And so perhaps the old comfort zone is a bit worn, a bit unraveled at the edges.
Your comfort zone is tired of you, always being there.
Perhaps it is time to examine it, and to create a new zone of comfort?
What would you change about yours?
Take a moment, and take a look.
What do you do that keeps you “safe”, either socially, energetically, in your career, your home, your art, your health, your politics, your methods of doing things. How much you give. Or take. Or ask for help.
Now, a comfort zone is there for a reason, a safe place where we can resort to when we need in times of chaos, or strife, anxiety, or pain, grief, or uncertainty.
Or change.
Change, which is a constant in life.
Change is actually the one thing that we can count on.
So I invite you to take a look at, the energetic “room” which is your comfort zone.
Do a meditation, or journey, where you create a room, see yourself in it, and have a good, slow, conscious look around.
Name 5 things that you do there, have there.
What makes you feel safe?
Who do you hang out with?
What do you wear, or eat, or watch?
Where do you go repeatedly?
What is your spirituality? Your “go to” gods, or meditation?
What do you spend your money on?
Why do you feel safe there?
Name 5 things that you do not do, when you are in your comfort zone.
What big steps?
What do you need to guard?
what are you afraid to lose, if you venture out?
Would there be repercussions?
I think for me it involves physical safety, and sometimes not being seen, or judged. I think I go unconscious, in my way of hoarding things for myself, as if there might be a time I need it, and not enjoying the present. That includes my time, my tools, my sense of adventure, money, even big projects. Travel. Sometimes, it is not telling my truth, or ending a friendship, that is not working anymore.
It is sometimes saving the good parts for last, the good stuff for later, as if my comfort zone thinks there is not enough to go around. Always a what if, keeping me from making big decisions, that my heart already knows the answer to. For me it involves not making decisions, although they could be really good, (but perhaps not. I want guarantees).
Stepping out of it, for me, means taking chances, speaking out for what I believe. Speaking up for myself. It means reaching out, and asking for help.
Doing the work is no problem for me, it’s the getting started. a commitment, a plan.
A decision.
Taking a chance.
It means caring, when I had put up a wall, as to not get hurt. Being afraid, and then doing it anyway.
Being vulnerable.
Being curious.
Many times showing up.
Just. Simply. Showing. Up.
Just like a young child feels safe to venture out and explore, because the safety of the arms of his parents are nearby, we can feel safe because we have our inner core of strength.
We also have the ability to be flexible, to be flexible in that vulnerability.
The world looks different when we allow ourselves to be softer.
As we are more conscious, and through our choices, more real, more present, we can feel safe enough to expand our comfort zone, or, to step out of it, and feel the cool breeze on our face.
Being curious.
It brings much value to your work, and your relationships, including your relationship with nature, and with change.
Remember, that there are parts of you who need the comfort zone, and parts of you who wish to explore.
Everyday,
take a moment,
sit at your deathbed
and see what your dying
self has to say
about your life.
When weighing important options, it is good to do this in meditation or journey. It is one change that is a constant, and not that far off.
So, what would you like to adjust in your comfort zone? Perhaps make it more of a network? Add trust? Be more conscious in there? Make a side door that you can sneak out of?
More positive, and loving self talk? It may help you take some big steps out and on your own.
Walk outside of it, and just notice.
You can always come back in.
Perhaps one day it will not be there.
That comfort zone.
But, you can recreate it.
A different version,
lighter,
breathable,
or, perhaps,
very tiny, like a pearl,
that you can carry easily,
in your heart.
And, besides,
it feels good to feel the breeze on you face, and skin, when you are out of it, and,
outside of it, is where the magic happens!
I am reminded of young Bilbo Baggins, in the Hobbit, when Gandalf the wizard, asked him to come with the team to other lands, for a good cause, and have an adventure.
He grumpily, and fearfully said, safe in his hobbit home,
“Adventure!? Silly things, make you late for dinner!”
But then he went, and things were never the same.
They were much, much better.
And, the Bilbo Baggins at his deathbed (had he gone there to discuss with his future, dying self, beforehand), would have been so proud of him, so happy, relieved, and honored, that he climbed out of his comfort zone, and gone with his trust, encouragement, new friends, and a good horse.
And he lived to return and tell the tale.
He called it, "There, and back again".
May you, may we all, examine the old zone, and update it, renovate it, consciously be there, and consciously leave, and come back again, as there is much magic and adventure in that.
I wish you blessings, of
Comfort, and Joy,
He grumpily, and fearfully said, safe in his hobbit home,
“Adventure!? Silly things, make you late for dinner!”
But then he went, and things were never the same.
They were much, much better.
And, the Bilbo Baggins at his deathbed (had he gone there to discuss with his future, dying self, beforehand), would have been so proud of him, so happy, relieved, and honored, that he climbed out of his comfort zone, and gone with his trust, encouragement, new friends, and a good horse.
And he lived to return and tell the tale.
He called it, "There, and back again".
May you, may we all, examine the old zone, and update it, renovate it, consciously be there, and consciously leave, and come back again, as there is much magic and adventure in that.
I wish you blessings, of
Comfort, and Joy,
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